You loved them. Now love yourself enough to let go.
The drafts you never send. The song you can't skip fast enough. The way your heart jumps when any phone buzzes. Your brain is grieving someone it still loves — and that's withdrawal, and withdrawal ends. UnHook is 30 days with a coach who learns your whole story, guards your streak, and stays up with you at 11:43pm when their name is on your screen and your thumb is hovering.
Your first 7 days are free — the hardest ones. No account, no judgement. This stays between you and your coach.
The road out of the tunnel
Tender with you, rigorous underneath. Each day asks three small things — one honest check-in tap, two tiny quests (one for endorphins, one for oxytocin: movement and people, the two systems heartbreak drains), and telling Nova how it actually feels. Every phase applies a recognised, well-studied framework. Here's how the light comes back:
Your story, heard once and held — then the triggers come down.
Fisher · cue removalUrges crest and pass in minutes; each one you outlast is weaker.
Marlatt · urge surfingThe highlight reel loses its edit rights — honest memory hurts less.
Beck · CBTAction first, feelings follow — whole afternoons become yours again.
behavioural activationA written plan keeps you free; the story closes on your terms.
relapse preventionYour heart, returned — one small ringed day at a time.
Private by design
No sign-up and no password is exactly what keeps this private. In plain words:
No name, no phone number, no photo — just an email, and any email works, even one you made up for this. There is no profile of you here. There can't be.
no profile existsLike a diary locked in your own phone. Someone who knows your email sees an empty page — not one word of yours — and there's no password to guess or steal. No app, no icon, no notifications: nothing shows up in your life. On a shared computer, use a private window.
your device holds the only keyType "delete my data" and everything disappears that second — like it was never here. Until then your words are kept scrambled on the same secure systems banks use, for one reason only: so Nova remembers your story. Never sold, never shared, never read by anyone.
gone means goneLess than the flowers you would have bought them
Your first week is free — a gift, because the first week is the worst. If your heart is starting to steady, one payment unlocks the other 23 days. No subscription: getting over them should have an end date.
FAQ
Who is Nova?
Your coach — named for what a star does after a collapse: shine new. Nova is an AI character with one job and a memory for your story, a consistent voice, and a question before anything else: soft, or straight with you? Not a real person, and honest about that — but very good company at 11:43pm.
Is this based on real psychology?
Yes — every phase applies a recognised, peer-reviewed framework, named stop by stop in "The road out of the tunnel" above. Coaching built on evidence, not improvised advice.
Is this therapy?
No — it's a structured coaching program built on well-studied ideas (no-contact, urge-surfing, attachment as withdrawal). If you're dealing with abuse, trauma or depression, your coach will say so honestly and point you to professional help. If you're in crisis right now: in NZ, free-call or text 1737 any time, or Lifeline 0800 543 354.
Will anyone know I'm using this?
No. No account, no password, no app on your phone, no notifications — just an email (any email) so your program stays yours between visits. Nothing is posted anywhere, your conversations aren't used to train AI models, and there's no password that could ever leak. The full story is in "Private by design" above.
What if I break no-contact?
You tell the coach with one tap. Your streak restarts; your day count and everything you've built don't. A slip is data, not failure — the program plans for it.
We were never even together. Does it still work?
Yes. Situationships, almost-relationships and unrequited love hook the same circuitry — sometimes harder, because there's no closure. The program treats them as real, because they are.
What exactly is free?
Days 1–7 of your program — the whole stabilise phase and the start of withdrawal week, unlimited conversations, panic button included. If the program is helping, NZ$29 unlocks days 8–30. If it isn't, you've lost nothing.
Why 30 days?
Long enough for the acute withdrawal to pass and new routines to take root; short enough to commit to. After day 30 you keep your remaining messages for aftercare whenever you wobble.
Can I get a refund?
If the product didn't work for you, email us within 14 days and we'll refund unused credits.
Start tonight.
Day 1 asks nothing but the truth — just tell Nova what happened. The first 7 days are free, and the hardest part is the message you're one tap away from sending.